View topic - Would you marry for convenience?
Just a curious question that popped out of my current situation.
Would you marry another person, even though you're not entirely ready, though you may or may not be in love with them for reasons such as to ease financial burdens?
I'm moving to the UAE with my fiance but it's actually illegal for us to even be in the same room alone together. Although it's super rare, it's not impossible to be arrested for doing so and marrying would help avoid going to gaol, but we refuse to marry straightaway for that reason alone.
Would you marry another person, even though you're not entirely ready, though you may or may not be in love with them for reasons such as to ease financial burdens?
I'm moving to the UAE with my fiance but it's actually illegal for us to even be in the same room alone together. Although it's super rare, it's not impossible to be arrested for doing so and marrying would help avoid going to gaol, but we refuse to marry straightaway for that reason alone.
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I'd marry some one to befit myself or them, whether that be for a green card or to keep me stable. 
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I don't think so. I've built up marriage to be so much and to have so much meaning that I doubt I should shift gears that easily. At this time, no.
I'll not say never because who knows how thing will change in the years ahead. I have to say that that is a hard one, there.
I'll not say never because who knows how thing will change in the years ahead. I have to say that that is a hard one, there.
I've known women who married the first person who asked just so they could get pregnant. People can and do marry for reasons other than love.
Just what the truth is, I can't say anymore.
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Yes, that's the only way I see myself getting married.
I will probably marry my boyfriend for that reason.
I love him and all that, no doubt about it.
But marriage.... is something that isn't so sacred to me.
I have only seen it fail, so it's not something I want to do.
I want to be committed just, I dunno....
I would only marry (and to someone I love) if it was necessary.
I will probably marry my boyfriend for that reason.
I love him and all that, no doubt about it.
But marriage.... is something that isn't so sacred to me.
I have only seen it fail, so it's not something I want to do.
I want to be committed just, I dunno....
I would only marry (and to someone I love) if it was necessary.
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Personally... not sure.
But I already been in that situation once before, needless to say... it didn't work out.
However knowing me, I would most likely. I get hurt but I can't sit by and let that person get hurt or anything. Guess I'm too much of a good person.
But I already been in that situation once before, needless to say... it didn't work out.
However knowing me, I would most likely. I get hurt but I can't sit by and let that person get hurt or anything. Guess I'm too much of a good person.
Damn right I would. Marriage is what you make it. On its own, it's nothing but legal benefits/changes and paperwork. I don't see why using those things to one's advantage would sully the institution or one's view of it overall. Marriage has existed for a long time and marrying strictly because of love has never been the only/proper way to go about it. If you later decide that the convenience no longer applies or that you'd prefer something more personal, you can divorce or plan a personalized ceremony or whatever else suits your tastes.
is it really illegal to live with your fiance there?
that sounds a bit bizarre. where im from thats what almost everybody does. my parents even lived together before marriage back when they were fresh out of highschool.
but to answer the general question.. i wouldn't. i think its a good idea to live with a lover before marriage. even if its just for a short while. because its not easy. but after experiencing it a little bit, if you feel like you can make it together, then seal the deal. :}
that is just how i see it though.
i dont think it is wrong to marry for the reason you two want to. its perfectly fine!
but unfortunately it might be overwhelming with so much changing at once. marriage + new home.
it might be difficult. im sure you two will be alright though ♥
that sounds a bit bizarre. where im from thats what almost everybody does. my parents even lived together before marriage back when they were fresh out of highschool.
but to answer the general question.. i wouldn't. i think its a good idea to live with a lover before marriage. even if its just for a short while. because its not easy. but after experiencing it a little bit, if you feel like you can make it together, then seal the deal. :}
that is just how i see it though.
i dont think it is wrong to marry for the reason you two want to. its perfectly fine!
but unfortunately it might be overwhelming with so much changing at once. marriage + new home.
it might be difficult. im sure you two will be alright though ♥
I wouldn't just tolerate it, I would prefer it. That would take a significant burden off of me.
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CherryBanni wrote:is it really illegal to live with your fiance there?
that sounds a bit bizarre. where im from thats what almost everybody does. my parents even lived together before marriage back when they were fresh out of highschool.
Yeah, it's at least one year gaol time. A year or two ago quite a lot of couples in neighbouring Sharjah area were being actively arrested though Dubai is relatively more liberal and overlook these things, unless you cheat on a wife, and that wife finds out and reports it, which happens. xD
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thats insane! im sorry its so strict over there O.o
its not easy marrying and then moving into a new home right away anymore. thats so much money
its not easy marrying and then moving into a new home right away anymore. thats so much money
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CherryBanni wrote:thats insane! im sorry its so strict over there O.o
its not easy marrying and then moving into a new home right away anymore. thats so much money
Nah, the money is no issue. If you secure a good job, good pay and the company pays for rent and all bills, and there are no taxes.
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