View topic - Would you date someone with a kid?
I'd like to say yes, but it'd probably be on a case by case basis.
I don't have any problems with them having a child, in fact, I think it'd be a bit of a plus to find a man who was willing to raise a child by himself. That says a lot about a man's character.
I don't have any problems with them having a child, in fact, I think it'd be a bit of a plus to find a man who was willing to raise a child by himself. That says a lot about a man's character.
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I would not. It's has nothing to do with the child, nothing to do with the mother. At this point in my life I do not want to have the added responsiblity of helping to raise a child in the mix of everything else with a girl regardless if the child is mine or not. I much rather be friends with someone with a child over being the boyfriend. I also would want to focus on being a better boyfriend to my girlfriend over trying to juggle her AND her child.
I raise my glass to single parents, I know it's hard enough raising a child with two parents.
I raise my glass to single parents, I know it's hard enough raising a child with two parents.
single parents are getting younger and younger, so the chance of meeting someone with a child is very likely. But i wouldn't let that be a deal breaker.
I wouldn't. The child is a half of someone else's as well. And you can't be sure if the divorced opposite would come back and start drama or anything else like that.
Also, it just feels like you digged out old crap and put it in your treasure chest.
Just my opinion.
Also, it just feels like you digged out old crap and put it in your treasure chest.
Just my opinion.
I couldn't thats a responsibility I'm not nearly ready for. There are plenty of kidless guys for me to date.
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Nope, never. Partly because I don't want kids, ever - whether they're my own or someone else's, and no matter the age (though, since I'm still young-ish, any kids probably would be in the infant to 7 or 8 years old range). I don't care to be around them, and the kid(s) would be part of the deal, no matter how little they were around, and I would be expected to be a good example or might end up stuck having to help take care of it. Anyone who has seen me around kids knows what a bad idea me taking care of a kid is; I tend to forget that kids need to be kept an eye on, on account of they generally do stupid, potentially dangerous crap because they don't know better. And my very presence is seen as a bad influence to a lot of people, on account of the piercings and tattoos.
Also, partly because that kid wouldn't be just the boyfriend/girlfriend's. I wouldn't want to have to deal with an SO's ex because of a kid, and I highly doubt most break-ups end up on very amiable terms like my parents' did. I've seen relationships go up in smoke because of kids from a previous relationship requiring the ex to still be a part of the equation. And oft times, the kids pulled the "I don't have to listen to you because you're not my parent" or "my mom/dad said I don't have to listen to you!" cards.
More trouble than it's worth...*shrug*
Also, partly because that kid wouldn't be just the boyfriend/girlfriend's. I wouldn't want to have to deal with an SO's ex because of a kid, and I highly doubt most break-ups end up on very amiable terms like my parents' did. I've seen relationships go up in smoke because of kids from a previous relationship requiring the ex to still be a part of the equation. And oft times, the kids pulled the "I don't have to listen to you because you're not my parent" or "my mom/dad said I don't have to listen to you!" cards.
More trouble than it's worth...*shrug*
I wouldn't. I'm not ready to make that kind of commitment and take on that responsibility. Maybe, just maybe, if I care/love that person enough, I'd be able to take that step but otherwise, no way.
Nope i would mind if they had a kid as long as they where happy to be with me. (;
I personally love kids so yes, I'd be fine with dating someone who has a kid or kids. I've taken care of my little brothers in the past and I work with kids at my church. I know how to deal with them. Plus my bff dated someone with a kid and if she can do it so can I because I've had a lot more experience with kids then she has ever had.
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I never would have considered ever wanting to be in a relationship with someone who has a kid. I was always a big no to me because I wanted to have my own family. I thought it was something unattractive. Recently coming into my current relationship for some reason I really wanted to be with her and get to be close to her child. I think you need to have that connection with the person and her kid to want to be in that situation. Right now I'm so very happy and I wouldn't trade it.
I never would have considered ever wanting to be in a relationship with someone who has a kid. I was always a big no to me because I wanted to have my own family. I thought it was something unattractive. Recently coming into my current relationship for some reason I really wanted to be with her and get to be close to her child. I think you need to have that connection with the person and her kid to want to be in that situation. Right now I'm so very happy and I wouldn't trade it.
I admit there are allot of people out there that are single and a parent but I would not want to be either 1- a parent 2- date someone who is a parent. Because I don't like kids and I would worry about that child and how both of us are or would raise it. I would worry more if I'm doing it wrong or not.
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