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Ok here is the situation there is this girl at my church that i like that i have been meaning to tell her how i feel about her for the past month and i haven't done it yet and i can't stop thinking about her it is driving me crazy even songs that are acoustic somewhat love songs i makes me feel as if my heart is about to exploed and this is the first girl that i like that i want to persue and i can see myself having something with. Every time night i plan to tell her i never have the chance but the nights that i do have the chance i always chicken out. And i always get nervous when when i want to tell her. and when i can and im going to i get to thinking and i think that i sound like an idiot and she isn't going to like me back. And the sad thingis is that whe might like me as well. So if anybody know anyways i can get over this. I have another Fourm if you want to get the full story it is http://www.ernya.com/19-year-old-guy-dating-a-16-year-old-girl-t164532.html
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We are the salt preserving souls
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We are, we are in desperation
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That's the funny thing about our minds, they're full of incessant chatter and will keep going and going. When you have something you're focused on such as a crush in your case, all that chatter will tend to focus on it.
As far as the incessant chatter, the best way to work with it that I know of is through meditation. There's meditations designed specifically for Christians out there if you think religion is an issue with that. I'm assuming by saying you like a girl in church that you're Christian. I'll let you explore your own avenues on that one, there's plethoras of different meditative practices out there and you can find what works for you. You can go through yoga class, maybe you do want to specifically narrow it down to Christian meditation or you can attend a meditation center, they're all over. I live in Dallas, Texas and we have one here and I'll bet you most people don't expect to find such a thing in Texas.
As for the girl just go for it. Do it. Take a deep breath and don't think about it.
As far as the incessant chatter, the best way to work with it that I know of is through meditation. There's meditations designed specifically for Christians out there if you think religion is an issue with that. I'm assuming by saying you like a girl in church that you're Christian. I'll let you explore your own avenues on that one, there's plethoras of different meditative practices out there and you can find what works for you. You can go through yoga class, maybe you do want to specifically narrow it down to Christian meditation or you can attend a meditation center, they're all over. I live in Dallas, Texas and we have one here and I'll bet you most people don't expect to find such a thing in Texas.
As for the girl just go for it. Do it. Take a deep breath and don't think about it.
Words exist because of meaning. Once you've gotten the meaning, you can forget the words. Where can I find a man who has forgotten words so I can talk with him? ~Chuang Tzu
i think one of the bigest reasons why i am so nervous and freaked out by telling her is because she is 3 years younger than me I am 19 and she is 16 i don't know how big of a problem it can cause but with our religion we don't beleive in sex before marriage
We are the light to reach this world
We are the salt preserving souls
Let´s show them the love that we´ve received now
We are, we are in desperation
We need to reach this generation
We are speaking louder than before
First of all, look at it this way. You're 19. She's 16. In 2 years she'll be 18. In 2 years you'll be 21. The age difference there is not THAT big, but I would proceed with caution. First of all, since you are obviously a good Christian boy, I would approach her parents first with all the respect you can muster and ask permission to date her if she likes you. This is IMPORTANT. If you do not have her parent's permission, there could be problems. Make them a promise you will be a good Christian boyfriend that abides by their rules. Let them know you would like to get to know their daughter better and let them know your intentions in the relationship.
Just make sure you know her boundaries. Make sure you know yours. And make sure you both have a good relationship with God. Be SURE to build the foundation of your relationship around God and Christ. You're sure to have a relationship built on solid ground.
I'm 21, Christian, and live with my Fiance, but that doesn't mean I do or do not believe in sex before marriage. The bible is very clear on that, but nobody ever said I was perfect. I do, however, believe you should be her friend first and treat her with incredible respect and respect her parent's wishes. Learn more about your faith together and that will help you grow.
If you do develop a relationship with her, it would be best to give each other vows of purity/chastity/abstinence.
As for keeping your mind from racing and thinking of her no matter what, pray. If you're a Christian and/or into church, pray. That helps immensely. Read your scriptures and invest in a good devotional that might help you.
If you need to talk, feel free to PM me :)
Good luck and God bless.
Just make sure you know her boundaries. Make sure you know yours. And make sure you both have a good relationship with God. Be SURE to build the foundation of your relationship around God and Christ. You're sure to have a relationship built on solid ground.
I'm 21, Christian, and live with my Fiance, but that doesn't mean I do or do not believe in sex before marriage. The bible is very clear on that, but nobody ever said I was perfect. I do, however, believe you should be her friend first and treat her with incredible respect and respect her parent's wishes. Learn more about your faith together and that will help you grow.
If you do develop a relationship with her, it would be best to give each other vows of purity/chastity/abstinence.
As for keeping your mind from racing and thinking of her no matter what, pray. If you're a Christian and/or into church, pray. That helps immensely. Read your scriptures and invest in a good devotional that might help you.
If you need to talk, feel free to PM me :)
Good luck and God bless.
I know how you feel and I've going through almost the same thing, but the thing is, the guy that I like knows that I like him. Annnd he kinda tries to avoid my gushy lovey dovey attitude I have sometimes toward him.
And for age? The guy I like is 20 and I'm 16. He's actually my ex from two years ago.
Age doesn't really matter...imo at least. Just don't have sex until she turns 18. :3
And for age? The guy I like is 20 and I'm 16. He's actually my ex from two years ago.
Age doesn't really matter...imo at least. Just don't have sex until she turns 18. :3
You know you want me.
i have some friends from church and they want me to ask her to our valentines day thing that our youth group is having
We are the light to reach this world
We are the salt preserving souls
Let´s show them the love that we´ve received now
We are, we are in desperation
We need to reach this generation
We are speaking louder than before
I haven't had to much time to talk to her recently and some of my friends told me to ask her to the valentines day thing our youth group is haveing and well im going by myself somebody all ready asked her to it.
We are the light to reach this world
We are the salt preserving souls
Let´s show them the love that we´ve received now
We are, we are in desperation
We need to reach this generation
We are speaking louder than before
Slaying Reaper wrote:i have some friends from church and they want me to ask her to our valentines day thing that our youth group is having
Honestly, go for it. You're going to hate yourself more if you don't than if you do and she rejects you. Believe me, you will. You should take your friend's recommendations and and ask her to the Valentine's event that your church is putting on. You don't even have to tell her right then and there, you could ask her on a couple of dates and see how it goes from there.
Dates do not have to be between established girlfriends and boyfriends, in fact, I highly recommend dating and then springing on the question of whether the two of you would like to take the friendship further.
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how was the girl now sir?hehehehe.... 
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