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Which do you consider the normal?
I often hear girl say that they feel weird or that it unusual to always having all guy friend. While other think it weird if all your friend is female.
To me it like a lose-lose deal. If you have all guy friend everyone either think your are a flirt or slut. (everyone as society view not mine) If you have all female friend they think you are (consider you are female) either lesbian or a looser with guys (can't really find a word for it) {Again from society point of view not mine}
For example, I didn't have any guy friend at all in high school and some people thought I was a lesbian. I just never got along well with guy.
So which do you consider is more normal or accepted in a social view? You cannot say having both male and female friend. I want to eliminated that choice since that usually the most accepted view. What your opinion on this issue of people judging gender in friendship?
I often hear girl say that they feel weird or that it unusual to always having all guy friend. While other think it weird if all your friend is female.
To me it like a lose-lose deal. If you have all guy friend everyone either think your are a flirt or slut. (everyone as society view not mine) If you have all female friend they think you are (consider you are female) either lesbian or a looser with guys (can't really find a word for it) {Again from society point of view not mine}
For example, I didn't have any guy friend at all in high school and some people thought I was a lesbian. I just never got along well with guy.
So which do you consider is more normal or accepted in a social view? You cannot say having both male and female friend. I want to eliminated that choice since that usually the most accepted view. What your opinion on this issue of people judging gender in friendship?
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I think it is more socially acceptable to have friends that are all the same gender as you. There are a lot of reasons why, if you're a girl, to only have female friends.
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I think the most accepted view would be to have friends who're the same gender as you.
Generally guys who have only girl friends are seen as gay, whether they are or not.
Girls with too many guys as friends can be labelled sexually so, but also as a fag hag, depending on the type of guys...
But I guess it all depends. :3
I think it's normal either way. Yeah, if I see a girl with a bunch of guys my first instinct is slut, but if I don't see her all over them then it's like oh, well nevermind. I mean for me I can't talk to girls, they all piss me off, but I can talk to a guy forever and it's not a problem.
If I poof, it's because I got lost o.0
I thought it was the norm to mostly be friends with your own gender.
Although I've always been a blatant tomboy. Honestly, I hang out with more guys than girls for that reason. A lot of the interests chicks have I just plain don't and that's the same exact thing I think whenever I see a chick that hangs out with mostly dudes.
Although where's these assumptions coming from that people that hang out with mostly one gender must be sluts or homosexual? I don't assume any sort of sexual association unless people give me good reason too.
Although I've always been a blatant tomboy. Honestly, I hang out with more guys than girls for that reason. A lot of the interests chicks have I just plain don't and that's the same exact thing I think whenever I see a chick that hangs out with mostly dudes.
Although where's these assumptions coming from that people that hang out with mostly one gender must be sluts or homosexual? I don't assume any sort of sexual association unless people give me good reason too.
I guess it would be considered the norm to have friends of the same gender...I guess because there will be more understanding between the friends...being able to talk about things that guys cannot get or whatever...visa versa with girls.
I always thought that a girl would be a tomboy if she had more guy friends than girl friends. Just being one of the guys. Although, it might be difficult for that girl to have a boyfriend if she is seen as a guy. -shrugs- I dunno, some guys are into tomboys.
Hm, and I guess some guys just have a lot of sisters or whatever and just feel more comfortable being around chicks so they avoid making friendship relationships with dudes...or whatever.
Anyways...getting off track kind of.
Well, I have more friends of the same gender. Not sure why...just do. I ended up being in a romantic relationship with one of them although I would not mind being with a guy if he was pretty much like me but not. I am not into extreme opposites...sorry.
My girlfriend is a major tomboy though which I guess explains why she has a lot of guy friends. El oh el. I really do not consider myself anything when it concerns the type of girl I am.
All of my pals though are pretty much laid back and chill. Many of the chicks I know are tomboys...I would not want some bitchy chick as a friend...that creates drama and always gossips. Blah, blah, blah.
I always thought that a girl would be a tomboy if she had more guy friends than girl friends. Just being one of the guys. Although, it might be difficult for that girl to have a boyfriend if she is seen as a guy. -shrugs- I dunno, some guys are into tomboys.
Hm, and I guess some guys just have a lot of sisters or whatever and just feel more comfortable being around chicks so they avoid making friendship relationships with dudes...or whatever.
Anyways...getting off track kind of.
Well, I have more friends of the same gender. Not sure why...just do. I ended up being in a romantic relationship with one of them although I would not mind being with a guy if he was pretty much like me but not. I am not into extreme opposites...sorry.
My girlfriend is a major tomboy though which I guess explains why she has a lot of guy friends. El oh el. I really do not consider myself anything when it concerns the type of girl I am.
All of my pals though are pretty much laid back and chill. Many of the chicks I know are tomboys...I would not want some bitchy chick as a friend...that creates drama and always gossips. Blah, blah, blah.
I would think in today's society, gender wouldn't matter at all. Growing up it didn't matter to me or anyone around me. I live in a very diverse area of the US though, so perhaps that is simply the norm here. It would differ around the world, of course.
The only time I was "made fun of" or what have you for having guy friends was when I was in first grade, and every girl though guys had "cooties" except for me, apparently >.>
For me personally, I do not get along with females unless they are over 50 years old. No joke. Females around my age and I just don't jive. When it comes to people my own age, I get along really well with males and that's how it's been most of my life. People have never had the notion in their head that I am a "slut" due to this since that is simply not how I am nor how I carry myself.
The only time I was "made fun of" or what have you for having guy friends was when I was in first grade, and every girl though guys had "cooties" except for me, apparently >.>
For me personally, I do not get along with females unless they are over 50 years old. No joke. Females around my age and I just don't jive. When it comes to people my own age, I get along really well with males and that's how it's been most of my life. People have never had the notion in their head that I am a "slut" due to this since that is simply not how I am nor how I carry myself.
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I think it's more normal having friends that are the same gender as you but really there's nothing wrong with all you're friends being the opposite gender. It's just that society today is very judgemental with everyone and there's always going to be someone who has a problem with what you're doing even if there's nothing wrong with it.
As a guy, I find myself having more close girl friends than guys friends. Most of my guy friends aren't really interesed in having deep conversations. I have friends of both genders, but I really don't think it matters who you're friends with as long as you're proud of your friends. Don't let others judge you. Who you are friends with is nobody else's business.
As long as you're happy with the peope you're around, it doesn't really make a difference with what is normal or not normal. Sure, it would be "normal" to be a female with female friends or a male with male friends, but we shouldn't have to fit into some social stigma to be accepted.
As long as you're happy with the peope you're around, it doesn't really make a difference with what is normal or not normal. Sure, it would be "normal" to be a female with female friends or a male with male friends, but we shouldn't have to fit into some social stigma to be accepted.
It's odd. I find that when all my friends are guys, I'm not thought of like that. I don't dress in revealing clothing. If anything, because I'm bi, I'm treated like one of the guys. Sometimes my group of friends consist of all girls. Rarely, though, as I find guys more easygoing and less dramatic. Then again, I never went to a typical highschool. The last public school I went to was in middle school. That was years ago... I graduated almost two years ago, come to think of it... o.o
Nowadays, it's generally accepted to have both. It's just there's always someone that's going to target you for one thing or the other. At least that's my observation.
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There is no such thing as normal.
If you get along with guys, you do.
If you get along with girls, you do.
I being female, don't get along well with other females.
I have more guy friends then girls.
I don't get called a slut, nor a flirt really ever.
I have a boyfriend, and he is fine with me "Hanging with the guys"
If you get along with guys, you do.
If you get along with girls, you do.
I being female, don't get along well with other females.
I have more guy friends then girls.
I don't get called a slut, nor a flirt really ever.
I have a boyfriend, and he is fine with me "Hanging with the guys"
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i don't really care what people think. i do not get along with girls irl (i'm fine talking with girls online tho). mostly because i can't stand them due to stuff that happened in high school, so i usually envision shoving a grenade down their pretty little throats or something. i prefer to hang out with the guys, and anyone who has a problem with this can go fuck themselves.
I have a lot of guys that are friends but then I also have some friends that are girls. Cause even though I get along with guys better but there are times where I need a girls opinion on stuff that a guy wouldn't understand. (If that makes sense)