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I am on disability and I get $45 a month in food stamps (no food bank just food stamps and no other government food assistance) yet if someone sees me once a month buying some food with an EBT (food stamp) card they give me that look like I'm lazy bum who is the reason for all their problems in their life. If I tell someone online that I'm on disability they'd say "Get a fucking job,social security won't be around for long" and these will be from grown men and women. I'd reply, "Well if I was able to get a job I wouldn't be on disability." Just because some people on welfare lie about the amount of money they make,doesn't mean we all are like that. I tell them the truth about how much i get,how much my house hold is worth and all the bills we pay. I am truthful when it comes to welfare therefore I get my foodstamps legally. As for disability, tell someone online or in real life to "Get a fucking job" for me,its a one way ticket to Hell. You do not know what someones disability is, nor would they have to explain to a stranger who already prejudge them why they are disabled.

The reason why I made this thread is because my food stamps came late this month. Usually they would come out on the 8th and I would go into wal mart (which is cheaper) and buy plenty of food for maybe a week,depending on the deals. Except this time the food stamps didn't come, so we went to the welfare office and the lady informed us it would be around on the 10 (which it didn't and it's 2pm here) What's the problem? Well I have to eat between the 8th and whenever they decide to put the money on the card. For the past 2 days, I have been living off of can soups and nothing else (no bread,crackers, or sweets.) Today I had to borrow money from my brother to buy me some pasta,bologna,can veggies and a loaf of bread, which thankfully was all half off today. It is easy when you have money for food and such to say "Lazy/get a job" but when you don't have it, then you realize how tough life can be.
Think of it like, what would happen if your boss told you you would get your check on the 14th instead of the 11th? Sure it's just 3 days to "duke it out" but could you feed yourself with no money til then?

so please, don't judge or assume someone is something even when they're not. And kindly don't view that individual with a stink eye because they took $2 out of your weekly paycheck.

I don't judge people for having food stamp cards, because i was raised on them. I don't have them now, but my mom, being a single mother got them to help raise myself and my brother. (Sure my dad paid child support, but my brother's dad didn't pay shit, so yeah...)

The only problem I have is when people use their food stamp card to buy pure junk. Like soda/candy bars/chips. For a while in wisconsin at least, they weren't allowed to use food stamps for energy drinks. I wish they would have kept it that way. I am all for food stamps being used on nutritional food, or even boxed food like macaroni or rice, that can actually fill you up. (I've had customers come into work and buy over $100 worth of cookies and cakes and shit, which is ridiculous)

As far as the disability, you are totally right. If it's not obvious (like wheel chair) or something, nobody knows. This day and age it's too easy to assume the worst possible thing about people, but it's really no excuse.

Hopefully you get your food money soon, and hopefully people stop giving you shit for it ^^

i just don't like it when people on welfare use the money to buy munchies or sell them for money for drugs, or anything else that give people who really need the money a bad name. i heard they're thinking of drug testing everyone who's on welfare to solve this problem.
but my bf and i are on welfare too. he's on ssi for disability (it's mental, so everyone always asks, well why can't your bf get a job?) and i get foodstamps. so i understand what it's like, and how hard it is to get a job. i could easily get on ssi for social anxiety, cuz when i'm around too many people, i start shaking and just want to start crying. but i can't get on ssi cuz i don't want to take drugs for it cuz of side effects, so i try to get a job anyway, and i usually blow it cuz i get so shaky. it sux cuz it's so easy for people with jobs to say "get a fuckin job!" yeah, they've already got one, and they've got job experience if they happen to lose it. it's not so easy for everyone else.

Llewellyn wrote:I don't have health insurance right now. So a couple of months ago a "friend," gave me some high and mighty lecture about how I better not apply for Medicaid because then I'd be a moocher and she doesn't want to have to pay for me. I thought that was a bitch move.

Wow that really is a bitch move of your "friend" =/

Llewellyn wrote:I don't have health insurance right now. So a couple of months ago a "friend," gave me some high and mighty lecture about how I better not apply for Medicaid because then I'd be a moocher and she doesn't want to have to pay for me. I thought that was a bitch move.

wow. i would have slapped her.

Once I become of legal age, I'm probably going to end up going on SSDI too. :/
Since, I can't perform any job, and I have a "severe" mental disorder... Thing is, we're taking steps to medically help it, so... Yeah. I'll probably end up on SSDI in a few years. There's no shame in it. If I can't work, I can't earn money... Simple as that.

Oddly, the disability denial rates are over 60%, so I don't know why people say, "YOU'RE A MOOCHER!" if over half of the applications are denied. Uhm. Hey, if I can't work, then I can't work. You can't force me to work when I can't... it's not like I don't want a job, it's that I either can't find one, or I need some help finding one, or I can't, CAN'T work. Cannot work, and will not work are not the same. I don't know why people act like it is.

Hound of Leithkorias wrote:i just don't like it when people on welfare use the money to buy munchies or sell them for money for drugs, or anything else that give people who really need the money a bad name. i heard they're thinking of drug testing everyone who's on welfare to solve this problem.
but my bf and i are on welfare too. he's on ssi for disability (it's mental, so everyone always asks, well why can't your bf get a job?) and i get foodstamps. so i understand what it's like, and how hard it is to get a job. i could easily get on ssi for social anxiety, cuz when i'm around too many people, i start shaking and just want to start crying. but i can't get on ssi cuz i don't want to take drugs for it cuz of side effects, so i try to get a job anyway, and i usually blow it cuz i get so shaky. it sux cuz it's so easy for people with jobs to say "get a fuckin job!" yeah, they've already got one, and they've got job experience if they happen to lose it. it's not so easy for everyone else.

I'm on for SAD and some big huge long word which doc says means my mind is lost in its little world and I do not know how to deal with the real world. O.o whatever that is. I can talk online for hours, or until my hand hurts but in real life it's like "iiiiiiiii like dake I meant cake *face turns red,skin gets itchy* please *looks down, feels a sort of panic/hand twitches kicking in* *holds out hand,shaking feeling light headed* yank tou *too scared to run around, too scared to stay,walks off afraid of what people will say* . Online its like "Cake please and thankies 8D "

@rawlyah. It took me 3 different psychiatrist and a judge to get me ssi :( Social security turned me down at 16. I had to go out of town (which to me was like being in a saw movie) stand before a judge (and I stuttered like a mofo) just to have a judge say "She can't work,shes too nervous and scared." If ya do apply for SSI tried to start seeing some psychiatrist about a year before,that will help your case :D

@anadentone
damn. i've never known anyone with social anxiety that bad, and i've known a lot of people with it. but maybe it's cuz you have that extra thing too? i don't stutter tho, i just get really shy and can't talk, or i'm too quiet, or blurt out something i shouldn't or something wrong (like once i got so nervous when i was talking to someone and they asked where i was from, and i said some random place cuz it was the first thing that popped in my head).
i'm just worried that a doctor won't think anything's wrong with me cuz i'm not like that with all people. like, i can talk to people just fine when i need help with something, so i'll be fine talking to a doctor. it's really really weird.
are you able to deal with it well enough tho?
oh, and also, i hope that you didn't take any of this the wrong way..i'm rereading it, and i'm like, fuck, she's probably gonna think i think she's tapped or something, and that's not it at all. so please don't take it like that.. :(

I can't stand people like that and honestly, people like that ended up making me feel bad about being on the welfare. I was on welfare after I had my daughter because I wasn't working and my ex had basically ditched us. I couldn't find work so I didn't have any other choice. Like my boyfriend's "sister in law" bitched about me being on welfare all the time but she didn't know my story. She still doesn't know why I was on welfare and she ended up making me feel worthless because she had a job and I didn't. I still don't have a job but I'm receiving weekly child support from the deadbeat and I'm a full time student so I can support my daughter the way she should be supported.

anadentone wrote:
@rawlyah. It took me 3 different psychiatrist and a judge to get me ssi :( Social security turned me down at 16. I had to go out of town (which to me was like being in a saw movie) stand before a judge (and I stuttered like a mofo) just to have a judge say "She can't work,shes too nervous and scared." If ya do apply for SSI tried to start seeing some psychiatrist about a year before,that will help your case :D

Yeah, I hear that almost everyone on ssdi get turned down at least twice before being eligible.
I've been seeing psychiatrists here and there for years now. xD Problem is, in Minnesota there's specific "definitions" for disabilities. I think most people here that are on disability are there due to physical disabilities and not mental.
I've been officially diagnosed quite a few times, with different disorders, though. But I think the basic idea is that the disability either has to eventually result in death, or has lasted, or will last longer than 12 months, and affects daily life as well as your ability to work. But that's just my state, I think. It shouldn't be a problem...

But I still agree that people are just stupid sometimes. How can I be a "moocher" if I honestly can't work?? Gah...

@hound Its cool I get what ya saying :D
sometimes when I'm down about it I go and look up "paranoid parrot" and "sociallyakward penguin" then I just get a chuckle off it,since it's overly paranoid or hysterical like calling your teacher mom. :D
i know it's wrong to laugh at my own disease but for me thats how I cope. Example:

PP- fog outside, silent hill
PP-watching the truman show- Oh. My. God.
SAP- teacher calls my name,replies "yes mom"
SAP- Friend is online, you say hey, friend goes offline
SAP- watches movie with granny,sex scene appears.
So true for me XD

lol those socially awkward penguin ones are pretty funny ^_^