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I think they should kinda be prefered to as a pedafile... but there are alot of friends of mine in high school that are dating men in thier 20's
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not usually but i am 19 and i have a crush on this 16 year old form my chuch. but we areapostolic penacostle so there for we don't believe in sex before marriage we don't believe in making out to much i don't know since i just got into church in july but we also don't believe in drinking cursing smoking among other things. but it depends on the situation on what the religion is how responsible the people are and other things so it depends
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I wouldn't accept it if my child tried to date a 25 year old unless they were like, 18. Even then, its a little iffy to me. I like to keep it within 4 years.
It depends, honestly. I'm a high schooler with good guy friends in their 20's [Not that I've ever dated them, of course.]
By the way, I'd like to point out that it's NOT pedophilia. Maybe a few of you should try looking up what pedophilia really is before you act like you know what you're saying. [That sounds rude. I didn't mean for it to sound rude, but high school age isn't pedophilia, it's simply the truth. Sorry.]
Anyway, I suppose it really depends. If I had a kid who was, say, 15, and wanted to go out with a 20-25 year old, I would have to meet them and okay them first. I'd be really iffy about it, and I probably wouldn't ever let the two go alone that much. I'd also explain that they really can't have sex or it's considered statutory rape.
By the way, I'd like to point out that it's NOT pedophilia. Maybe a few of you should try looking up what pedophilia really is before you act like you know what you're saying. [That sounds rude. I didn't mean for it to sound rude, but high school age isn't pedophilia, it's simply the truth. Sorry.]
Anyway, I suppose it really depends. If I had a kid who was, say, 15, and wanted to go out with a 20-25 year old, I would have to meet them and okay them first. I'd be really iffy about it, and I probably wouldn't ever let the two go alone that much. I'd also explain that they really can't have sex or it's considered statutory rape.
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I think it's inappropriate, and I would know, I was one of those highschoolers who dated older men. I was kept in a fashion I liked and I found it only upped my standards for men my own age since these older men could spend money on me, take me places and so on.
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My stepsister is dating someone who's 28, and she's 16.
I've met him, and he's really nice and such. I have nothing against him. I just think it's .. Wrong. The age gap is so big, when they're so young.
My stepsister is dating someone who's 28, and she's 16.
I've met him, and he's really nice and such. I have nothing against him. I just think it's .. Wrong. The age gap is so big, when they're so young.
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I usually go by age is but a number. Then I think that should only happen if it is a reasonable age gap. I mean I wouldn't go with a teenager dating a person over the age of 25. I mean when I was fifteen I would only like guys that was like only four years older then me. Like nineteen that was the highest I would go at that age.
The fact that you cant tell whether the older one is being honest, or just being a pervert makes it so controversial. For someone over 25 they should know that dating someone still in school is inappropriate, it'll make em' seem immature, stupid and obviously a pervert. Someone who dates someone WAY younger than them aren't mature to begin with.. I've met a lot, and i mean A LOT of girls who date older guys, and these guys didn't have a stable job, still dressed like teenagers, just liked partying, doing drugs and what not.. I'm not saying that all of them are like this, but I guess i can say that most are. At least that's what you see here in the big city :/
If someone asked me three years ago I might've said yes, but if I said it was inappropriate right now then it would only make me into a hypocrite. Seeing as I am dating someone older than me and I was at the time 16, I think not quite sure. But he was in his twenties.
Eitherway, I personally think that it depends on the person. And one shouldn't really be bothered by things that plays a minor role in the relationship. Though there is a limit to how old, of course.
Eitherway, I personally think that it depends on the person. And one shouldn't really be bothered by things that plays a minor role in the relationship. Though there is a limit to how old, of course.
Back when I was in High School there was this girl in 9th grade who was pregnant by a 24 year old guy, and she was only 16. Thing was they both were together and madly in love, so when the guy found out she was pregnant by him he immediately took responsibility for it and he was so happy. (from what the had girl said)
I guess they turned out to be a great couple and had a baby girl, though the girl's parents were disappointed at first with the situation but after getting to know the guy I guess they gotten to trust him etc..
I do believe that age is just a number and love comes unannounced. Though you have to be careful on who you decide to be with, not everyone is always as they claim to be.
I guess they turned out to be a great couple and had a baby girl, though the girl's parents were disappointed at first with the situation but after getting to know the guy I guess they gotten to trust him etc..
I do believe that age is just a number and love comes unannounced. Though you have to be careful on who you decide to be with, not everyone is always as they claim to be.
People can do whatever they want to do. Just because someone is under 18 doesn't mean they are as immature, dimwitted, stupid, etc., as people think. Albeit a vast majority of them are. If someone would rather date a mature male/female from a different age group, then let them? I don't see why someone would have to date their own age if their own age group is filled with idiots. Love and relationships have no guidelines, there is no rule that states you can't have emotions for someone because they are 10 years younger than you. Perhaps if the law wasn't engraved in people's skulls you'd have a different perspective over the whole matter, but sadly you can't say that it wouldn't change, and I can't say it would.
People need to be more open minded about it. Now you may ask if I would let my fictional 16 year old daughter date a 25 year old man. My answer would be no. Why? Because this is from a totally different perspective, as a father, of course I wouldn't want that. Hell, I wouldn't even want her dating an EIGHTEEN year old boy.
Whether they are being stupid by dating someone outside of their age group or not also depends on the values and examples given to them from their guardians. If they are smart enough to have feelings for someone who actually cares about them, then what exactly is wrong with the relationship other than this apparent taboo age difference? Nothing.
People need to be more open minded about it. Now you may ask if I would let my fictional 16 year old daughter date a 25 year old man. My answer would be no. Why? Because this is from a totally different perspective, as a father, of course I wouldn't want that. Hell, I wouldn't even want her dating an EIGHTEEN year old boy.
Whether they are being stupid by dating someone outside of their age group or not also depends on the values and examples given to them from their guardians. If they are smart enough to have feelings for someone who actually cares about them, then what exactly is wrong with the relationship other than this apparent taboo age difference? Nothing.
~{ Depends on the age of the highschooler.. some are more mature then others but that still is a good little gap between the average age of a highschooler and the older person in said relationship being 25 Over all i couldn't see myself personally doing such a age gap back then.. but things are different now a days and so long as it is not forced and both sides can say they love one another im not sure it matters?
Maybe I'm just odd i mean there are older women with younger guys and they are allowed whatever happiness they get so i guess it could work the other way around as well .. not saying i'd be ok with this for my own daughter but.. i would have to really look into the situation and think on it.}~
Maybe I'm just odd i mean there are older women with younger guys and they are allowed whatever happiness they get so i guess it could work the other way around as well .. not saying i'd be ok with this for my own daughter but.. i would have to really look into the situation and think on it.}~
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Lets face it. Men who are 25 years old have the maturity level of a 16 year old girl. As for men who are much older (40s or 50s), well there has to be something a little off with that. I dated older men when I was a teenager, only because boys my age were morons. I dont see a problem with it, depends on the motives.