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Are there any underlying issues that cause you to do it? Bullying, stress from school or to perform well, etc?

The scars should fade over time so don't worry too much about that, but don't use it as an excuse to do it again!

You need to ease yourself onto another coping mechanism, like writing how you feel or having a letter to read when you feel like bad to motivate you and inspire you!

I use that myself as I find it hard to talk to other about shizzle :) My little letter has saved me many-a-times!

Then be strong girl and get a good education so you don't have to depend on them, longer than you want too :)

But hurting yourself may ease some of the pain but like I said, it's better to get yourself onto another way of coping, if I can think of any more I'll message you :)

But feel free to message me any time your down or need some advice, keep in mind I'm pulling from my own experiences so they may not fully fit your situation D:

I suffer from very bad anxiety, there's not a moment in the day I'm not panicking or stressed and also social anxiety!

When I was your age I was starving myself, which is similar to your cutting but I've learnt to overcome it :) (somewhat)

I have to bob out food shopping but I'll reply when I get back~

yeah, i've been there. in high school i was living with an abusive aunt and uncle. i started cutting to try and cope with the pain, he found out (cuz it was my uncle who did it mostly, but my aunt who made him do it cuz she hated me and my siblings cuz she hated my mom) and it got even worse >.<
i don't remember how or why i stopped tho cuz it was so long ago and that part of my lie is mostly blocked out anyway. i do know my friends were no help. they cut too, so they were actually helping me by bringing in sharp objects and teaching me how to hide them since my room was raided and cleared out and i wasn't allowed near knives, or even forks. i think it was once i got out of there the need to cut eventually ended up dwindling to nothing.
just always remember that you are better than your parents and anyone else who is abusing you. they know that you're better than them and that's why they do it. they're trying to knock you down until you break so they can feel like they're better than you. don't give them the satisfaction of seeing you break. when i was living with my uncle i was stubborn and defiant. every time he hit me or tried to break me mentally, i'd stand up straight and stare at him with such hatred in my eyes that he couldn't take it and he'd slap me and shout about something or other, but i knew i won that battle when he'd slap me for staring. i'd even fight back sometimes, but i don't really remember what happened cuz i blacked out at that point. all i remember is when i came out of it i was being restrained and screaming like a she-demon.
but life gets better. you just gotta stay strong and never stay down. channel all that pain to keep you going, to fuel you to your goal of being free. one day you won't have to depend on them anymore. one day you'll be able to escape their clutches. they know this. that's another reason they want to break you. birds with broken wings can't fly away. and once you're out of there, burn all the bridges and never look back.

The best thing you can do for yourself at this point is to get help, because as much as no one wants to admit it, cutting is first and foremost a cry for help, an attention plea. Even if you never tell anyone, and hide it for years, the basic psychology behind it is almost always the same- a cry for help, a distress signal, a huge sign flashing this is not okay.

I cut for five years until I got into counselling. In that timespan, I took over 60 stitches (at different times, mind you) and was hospitalized for a 72-hour suicide watch once. There was talk of me signing in to a long-term facility to help me get things under control. It wasn't all just the cutting, of course, but that was what drew the most acute attention for me, probably because I have a blood condition that prevents me from clotting. But when doctors stopped talking to me about controlling my emotions and started talking to me about group homes and halfway houses for adults, that's when I realized everything had gotten out of control and I needed serious help. I left an abusive relationship, threw out my pills and razors, and got myself into counselling. All at once. So I know it's scary, it's really, really scary to confront something like that and even scarier to have to tell people (like parents), but trust me love, not doing it is scarier in the long run.

I've heard it said some people grow out of it, and some people are "faking", and all of those things that people say to tell you it's not important and please take your drama elsewhere. Don't listen to those people. What you are feeling is very real, very important, and it needs to be addressed. And sometimes, some people need other people to tell them these things before they can see the truth in that. People will say that it's "for attention" like that means it's not real, and they couldn't be more wrong. The fact that someone would go that far "for attention" is in itself an alarming situation, so that argument is invalid.

If you're underage, you will have to tell your parents. And that seems like something you cannot do, I understand that, but remember, you don't have to tell them alone. You have the right to have your best friend with you when you tell them. You have the right to arrange an appointment with you, your school's guidance counsellor or public health nurse, and your parents, and have the official help you tell them. You have the right to rehearse with the other person what you will say to them, and how you will handle their reaction, and you have the right to request that the meeting be terminated if they react angrily or abusive during the meeting. You can take control of this, and you have resources at your school, local hospital, and community to help you explain this and to help them understand in a way that won't make them angry. And remember, if they do react angrily, that there's a valid emotion behind their reaction- fear. They won't understand at first, why their little girl would do such a thing. It will scare them. So it's a really good idea to have a counsellor with you when you tell them, because that person can help them as much as they'll be helping you in that situation.

And other people have said this, but I'll say it, too: You can message me at any time. I'm on here every night, usually for hours, and I check in periodically throughout the day. Any message you send me, will be read and responded to as soon as humanly possible, but usually within a couple hours of sending it. I can help you calm down, or distract you, or give advice or just listen, whatever you need at that moment.

Savagery and Eloquence wrote:The best thing you can do for yourself at this point is to get help, because as much as no one wants to admit it, cutting is first and foremost a cry for help, an attention plea. Even if you never tell anyone, and hide it for years, the basic psychology behind it is almost always the same- a cry for help, a distress signal, a huge sign flashing this is not okay.

This. Also the fact that you're posting pictures of it on the internet only reiterates the fact that it's a cry for help. Tell someone around you, call one of those teen help hotlines. Something. It's not healthy and the only way you're going to get past it is if you're getting the attention you need.

Sometimes it takes the negative attention [ie. your parents finding out and getting upset, taking you to doctors, etc.] that will ultimately help you.

Posting photos of harming yourself as an underaged person can also lead to legal issues.

edit: Boystown National Hotline is a good start. You can use their hotline or even their online chat.