View topic - My BF broke up with me
I moved to my exes town, we have been on-off for three years. He broke up with me again (likely for the last time) on MLK day. I like to be open and communicative and spend time together, and he's more distant. He completely shuts down or flips out and overemphasizes the drama anytime he gets upset at all. His reactions to having issues to talk over are to yell and flip out, or to leave and refuse to discuss it. Or both. He will often assume I'm about to be a dick and preemptively be a dick instead.
It's fucking hard. I know how bad he is for me, because whether he cares or not, he doesn't treat me as though my needs matter. But man if it doesn't fucking hurt. He chooses to completely shut me out of his life and pretend I don't exist, basically. Every so often he will talk to me and then the next day it's back to completely acting like I don't exist. It sucks. It's fucking hard. Last time we were apart it was six months of me pining over him. I cancelled every single date I tried to go on.
It doesn't help that I'm reclusive as fuck. He's like the only person that was in my day-to-day life. He was my best friend, and now I don't have anyone anymore.
Good luck, and thanks for letting me vent. I understand, oh how I do.
It's fucking hard. I know how bad he is for me, because whether he cares or not, he doesn't treat me as though my needs matter. But man if it doesn't fucking hurt. He chooses to completely shut me out of his life and pretend I don't exist, basically. Every so often he will talk to me and then the next day it's back to completely acting like I don't exist. It sucks. It's fucking hard. Last time we were apart it was six months of me pining over him. I cancelled every single date I tried to go on.
It doesn't help that I'm reclusive as fuck. He's like the only person that was in my day-to-day life. He was my best friend, and now I don't have anyone anymore.
Good luck, and thanks for letting me vent. I understand, oh how I do.
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It's hurtful dear, but it's part of life. Your profile says you're 19.. so this relationship began when you were around 14? Harsh.
Well, life comes with it's ups and downs and relationships are usually a major contributor to both of those things. You may want closure since it didn't come to a mutual end but it's doubtful that you'll get it.
The best bet is going to be moving on- which is hard. Give yourself some time to be sad, let that turn into some anger. Get the girls together and have a boy-bashing night.. Get it all out. Realize you can do better. Do so.
Chin up, life's only uphill from here. :)
Well, life comes with it's ups and downs and relationships are usually a major contributor to both of those things. You may want closure since it didn't come to a mutual end but it's doubtful that you'll get it.
The best bet is going to be moving on- which is hard. Give yourself some time to be sad, let that turn into some anger. Get the girls together and have a boy-bashing night.. Get it all out. Realize you can do better. Do so.
Chin up, life's only uphill from here. :)
Seriously, he's been wanting to do that for 2 years? Oh god. /facepalm.
See, long distance...99% of the time never works. Believe me, all my relationships have been only on the internet and only once out of them all, we met up, BUT it didn't last because it turned into long distance again.
But KUDOS for your online relationship lasting that long, even if he wanted to break up 2 years earlier. Maybe this is a sign that's saying...hey, time to look in real life for someone better, someone destined for you.
See, long distance...99% of the time never works. Believe me, all my relationships have been only on the internet and only once out of them all, we met up, BUT it didn't last because it turned into long distance again.
But KUDOS for your online relationship lasting that long, even if he wanted to break up 2 years earlier. Maybe this is a sign that's saying...hey, time to look in real life for someone better, someone destined for you.
You know you want me.