View topic - The biggest news. (Update on 4.27.12)
I'm pregnant. Not by choice. The sex wasn't by choice. I was passed out drunk and he had his fun. Now I find out I'm little over a month pregnant. I'm scared, terrified. The only great thing I see right now is the fact that I still have Christopher, and that he understands it didn't happen by my choice. I just don't know what to do.
I got all my vitamins and prenatals I'm going to need and books. Just... ugh. T_T
Update from the mommy-to-be: (February 29,2012)
I am 9 weeks pregnant as of this week and due on October 1st.
Well, baby is doing good. :) The normal size and everything so far. She makes me really sick though, thank God for anti-nausea meds! My OB gave me little berry flavored disolvables, they have a HORRID after taste, but work fast so I can't really complain.
I had my first OB appointment last Thursday, they tested for anything I could have gotten from him, so far I only have my pee test back though. In which they found the Strep virus, in my pee?! It thought it was weird. So I'm on antibiotics for five days. And I got to see baby on Monday!!! My mom and best friend, Jack, went with me and it was really good. I have baby's first pictures already on my thumb tack board beside my bed.
Things aren't good with Christopher, we're struggling pretty bad. I think part of it is because he is still so far away from me (12 hours or so) and I have days where I can't talk to him cause I'm busy the whole day taking care of baby stuff, or I'm sleeping cause she makes me so tired. He says his ex never slept so much when she was pregnant and all I had to say to that was "Your ex didn't have Multiple Sclerosis on top of being pregnant." I normally take meds for the drowsiness caused by the MS but now I can't and the baby causes even more drowsiness.
So it's been a bit of a struggle. He gets jealous easily over the baby coming first and I really don't know what to do right now. I'd probably be stressed as all hell without my two best friends. Right now I'm looking forward to see the gender in two months and already have names picked out. Girl: Liliana Rose. Boy: Zachary Micheal. :)
As far as pressing charges go, they went no where. His friends lied for him stating that I was coherent and it was consensual. Whatever, he's out of my life. If he ever comes near me I'll be the one causing permanent damage this time, and he knows that.
Update from the mommy-to-be: (March 30,2012)
Well, my little miracle is now 13 weeks and 4 days old. You know what that means. Yup! Out of my first trimester! We are into month 4 and I am still praying for morning sickness to go away. I found out last week that at my last ultrasound they discovered that the baby is sitting on a pocket of blood, so if I start bleeding I have to go into the ER immediately. No questions about it. Also, if my cramping gets really bad I also have to go in. Other than that baby is very healthy and growing at the rate she's supposed to be. :) All my blood levels are where they're supposed to be, including my iron! The only other thing I found out was that I apparently have cysts on my ovaries, which they discovered at my ultrasound. Honestly, I could read that screen if my life depended upon it. Also, at my last OB visit (last week) the baby's heart rate was at 133 beats per minute, right where it should be. =3 My next appointment is at the end of April and my ultrasound to figure out the gender is shortly after that. Have to be 20 weeks to see the gender sadly.
In other news, I have found out the the guy who did this had the STD called HPV. It's not something super serious, they estimate over half the US population has it. However, at this point it was insult added to injury really. It cannot be cured, your body can get rid of it on its own - but only if you have a good immune system. It's currently not in my blood stream, so baby is safe. The warts can only be removed with the use of liquid nitrogen. OUCH! After the baby is born I can use a topical cream though, which as far as I'm concerned, seems WAY less painful!
As far as Chris an I are going... things are hard; and complicated. He's gets really jealous of the baby and complains he isn't getting enough attention, but rarely gives attention to me. We don't go a day without an argument or dispute of some sort and it's really getting hard. For the first time I'm questioning whether or not it's worth it anymore. I should be allowed to take time for myself, and my baby, without worrying about how he's going to react or how it will upset him. I just don't know anymore. I'm going to see how things go in the next month before I make a decision.
I'll update again next month after my baby appointment! <3
Update from Mommy-to-be: (April 27, 2012)
Ok, so I'm four and a half months pregnant now. My morning sickness is still horrible, my lake of eating is still kind of high as is my fluids intake. Baby's heart rate is a little slow, but other than that baby is good. She's taking everything she needs from me. The only problem is she's leaving little for mommy.
I have now lost a total of 29lbs, weighing in at 201lbs today. I've been consistently dehydrated for about two and a half weeks, having been in the ER three times for IV fluids. I also got a sinus infection that turned into pneumonia; I'm still on antibiotics for that one. But because of the issues with my weight and everything else I now have to have a liter of IV fluids three times a week for the next month. Every Monday, Wednesday and Friday. I get a pic line put in on Monday to make things easier.
As for Chris, things aren't improving. He has little fleeting moments, but that's it. And I'm about finished with it.
Next baby appointment is in two weeks and the next ultrasound is around that time also.
I got all my vitamins and prenatals I'm going to need and books. Just... ugh. T_T
Update from the mommy-to-be: (February 29,2012)
I am 9 weeks pregnant as of this week and due on October 1st.
Well, baby is doing good. :) The normal size and everything so far. She makes me really sick though, thank God for anti-nausea meds! My OB gave me little berry flavored disolvables, they have a HORRID after taste, but work fast so I can't really complain.
I had my first OB appointment last Thursday, they tested for anything I could have gotten from him, so far I only have my pee test back though. In which they found the Strep virus, in my pee?! It thought it was weird. So I'm on antibiotics for five days. And I got to see baby on Monday!!! My mom and best friend, Jack, went with me and it was really good. I have baby's first pictures already on my thumb tack board beside my bed.
Things aren't good with Christopher, we're struggling pretty bad. I think part of it is because he is still so far away from me (12 hours or so) and I have days where I can't talk to him cause I'm busy the whole day taking care of baby stuff, or I'm sleeping cause she makes me so tired. He says his ex never slept so much when she was pregnant and all I had to say to that was "Your ex didn't have Multiple Sclerosis on top of being pregnant." I normally take meds for the drowsiness caused by the MS but now I can't and the baby causes even more drowsiness.
So it's been a bit of a struggle. He gets jealous easily over the baby coming first and I really don't know what to do right now. I'd probably be stressed as all hell without my two best friends. Right now I'm looking forward to see the gender in two months and already have names picked out. Girl: Liliana Rose. Boy: Zachary Micheal. :)
As far as pressing charges go, they went no where. His friends lied for him stating that I was coherent and it was consensual. Whatever, he's out of my life. If he ever comes near me I'll be the one causing permanent damage this time, and he knows that.
On a side note: Don't call my baby a "Rape baby" your stupidity hurts. Also! If you think abortion is a good idea, don't even post. Nothing you say will convince me otherwise that my little miracle (regardless of how it came about) is anything less and a living, breathing, growing CHILD OF GOD. Despite what has happened I have decided to keep my baby. Period. Nothing changes that. There was never a doubt in my mind about keeping it, my doubt lied in whether or not I was ready for this. Also, if you're here to tell me I should have known better than to drink and stay at some house, I'm here to tell you that no one understands the events that lead up to this better than I do. I think about it daily. So shut your mouth. You're ignorance harms my bliss.
Update from the mommy-to-be: (March 30,2012)
Well, my little miracle is now 13 weeks and 4 days old. You know what that means. Yup! Out of my first trimester! We are into month 4 and I am still praying for morning sickness to go away. I found out last week that at my last ultrasound they discovered that the baby is sitting on a pocket of blood, so if I start bleeding I have to go into the ER immediately. No questions about it. Also, if my cramping gets really bad I also have to go in. Other than that baby is very healthy and growing at the rate she's supposed to be. :) All my blood levels are where they're supposed to be, including my iron! The only other thing I found out was that I apparently have cysts on my ovaries, which they discovered at my ultrasound. Honestly, I could read that screen if my life depended upon it. Also, at my last OB visit (last week) the baby's heart rate was at 133 beats per minute, right where it should be. =3 My next appointment is at the end of April and my ultrasound to figure out the gender is shortly after that. Have to be 20 weeks to see the gender sadly.
In other news, I have found out the the guy who did this had the STD called HPV. It's not something super serious, they estimate over half the US population has it. However, at this point it was insult added to injury really. It cannot be cured, your body can get rid of it on its own - but only if you have a good immune system. It's currently not in my blood stream, so baby is safe. The warts can only be removed with the use of liquid nitrogen. OUCH! After the baby is born I can use a topical cream though, which as far as I'm concerned, seems WAY less painful!
As far as Chris an I are going... things are hard; and complicated. He's gets really jealous of the baby and complains he isn't getting enough attention, but rarely gives attention to me. We don't go a day without an argument or dispute of some sort and it's really getting hard. For the first time I'm questioning whether or not it's worth it anymore. I should be allowed to take time for myself, and my baby, without worrying about how he's going to react or how it will upset him. I just don't know anymore. I'm going to see how things go in the next month before I make a decision.
I'll update again next month after my baby appointment! <3
Update from Mommy-to-be: (April 27, 2012)
Ok, so I'm four and a half months pregnant now. My morning sickness is still horrible, my lake of eating is still kind of high as is my fluids intake. Baby's heart rate is a little slow, but other than that baby is good. She's taking everything she needs from me. The only problem is she's leaving little for mommy.
I have now lost a total of 29lbs, weighing in at 201lbs today. I've been consistently dehydrated for about two and a half weeks, having been in the ER three times for IV fluids. I also got a sinus infection that turned into pneumonia; I'm still on antibiotics for that one. But because of the issues with my weight and everything else I now have to have a liter of IV fluids three times a week for the next month. Every Monday, Wednesday and Friday. I get a pic line put in on Monday to make things easier.
As for Chris, things aren't improving. He has little fleeting moments, but that's it. And I'm about finished with it.
Next baby appointment is in two weeks and the next ultrasound is around that time also.
QuoteLast edited by Geekie Momma on Sat Apr 28, 2012 3:57 am; edited 5 times in total
You seem strangely calm over the whole situation. Have you confronted the father over this?
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I am calm, now. And I told him and all he really had to say was that it was my fault and not to talk to him until it was born and I had a DNA test done. It can't be anyone elses because I haven't had sex with anyone in months. Aside from the night I blacked out apparently. I'm doing my best to be calm because I don't want to stress out my baby.
Congratz I Hope ur baby will be Cute As You 
Thanks October :) She's due early to mid Oct. Idk the gender yet, but saying she feels right. :)
Yea :)
you got pregnant...and whose that guy who make you pregnant anyway?
see that,,getting drunk doesnt make sense...so i suggest next time stop getting drunk that hard...tsk tsk..
see that,,getting drunk doesnt make sense...so i suggest next time stop getting drunk that hard...tsk tsk..
The guy who got me drunk isn't important, because he took advantage of me and will have no part in my child's life. I admit that it was a bad decision to drink, but don't judge.
Geeklet wrote:The guy who got me drunk isn't important, because he took advantage of me and will have no part in my child's life. I admit that it was a bad decision to drink, but don't judge.
sorry sorry,im not saying that im judging you already,if i meant to say that i would say that you dont care if ever someone's gonna take advantage on you when you get drunk...
all im saying is that learned your lesson so tha tnext time it wont happen again...
and curse that guy who that to you..he should be the one to blame and not you sweetie...take care of that baby,its gift...its precious...its life...and be happy...
I honestly wish I hadn't drank anything, but then I wouldn't have the miracle that makes me have to pee so much. xD I have to find the humor in this, otherwise I might still cry. But after this I probably will never drink without Christopher present. I know he'd keep me safe and there's no such thing as him being able to take advantage of me. lol We plan to get married, and he still wants to go through with those plans. I was so scared he wouldn't. My only worry is that he says he'll have problems raising a child that isn't his.... that terrifies me to be honest. For the first time in two and a half years I'm questioning things, and I really don't like that.
On a side note, I want it to be a girl soooo bad. :)
On a side note, I want it to be a girl soooo bad. :)
I know that's gotta be tough. Well if you need any advice or help let me know. ; ) And you won't be finding out the gender more than likely until about 20 weeks along, if you're only a month in the baby 'technically' hasn't developed their gender yet.
Words exist because of meaning. Once you've gotten the meaning, you can forget the words. Where can I find a man who has forgotten words so I can talk with him? ~Chuang Tzu
I know, I'm hoping positive reinforcement will help it be a girl xD
Well, as long as you're stable and able to create a healthy life for the baby, that's all that matters!
Whether or not the daddy wants to be in the baby's life is upon him.
Either way you look at it, he'll be loosing out.
Anyways, congrats!
Whether or not the daddy wants to be in the baby's life is upon him.
Either way you look at it, he'll be loosing out.
Anyways, congrats!
The guy sounds like a dike.
Not a person I'd want around a baby, so I say good on you for keeping the baby in the first place and even better that this horrid excuse for a human being wont be in your child's life!
Not a person I'd want around a baby, so I say good on you for keeping the baby in the first place and even better that this horrid excuse for a human being wont be in your child's life!
