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My friend Charley was diagnosed with lung cancer. She's only 14, but her parents have smoked her whole life, and when her life was shit for a while, she did too (My guess, is it also has to do with her having asthma). The thing is, she comes from a bad family and they dont care if she lives or dies. The only one she likes in her family is her half-sister, whose a two faced brat.
And I feel really depressed about this. I want to help her, but I cant. She doesnt think she has a reason to live, and that she wont be missed if she dies, so she wont even try getting help. For one, I feel angry and sad, and I want to help badly, but really dont know what to do
Her family is broke so they cant (even if they wanted to) help her get the treatment she needs. And I cant get ahold of 200k honestly within a month. I cant stand seeing my friend in pain/ I've talked to my father, but niether of us know what to do.
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And I feel really depressed about this. I want to help her, but I cant. She doesnt think she has a reason to live, and that she wont be missed if she dies, so she wont even try getting help. For one, I feel angry and sad, and I want to help badly, but really dont know what to do
Her family is broke so they cant (even if they wanted to) help her get the treatment she needs. And I cant get ahold of 200k honestly within a month. I cant stand seeing my friend in pain/ I've talked to my father, but niether of us know what to do.
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My friend has cancer. I'm frustrated and confused and feel helpless, and dont know how I can help. She's got evil parents and a bad family
Sorry about the ranty-rant and cussing. I just had to get that out
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Awww man, I am so sorry for your friend.
As or the money, I would suggest checking out Cancer support services. You and your dad can talk to someone live,and ask more in depth about where you and your friend live. They might be able to get her some help.
As or the money, I would suggest checking out Cancer support services. You and your dad can talk to someone live,and ask more in depth about where you and your friend live. They might be able to get her some help.
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I'm really sorry to hear that. I've got a friend who has bone cancer and his family has pretty much abandon him. He was living in his van...but was finally able to get a place.
To be honest....the only thing you can really do...is just be there for them when they need you. That is all I am able to do with my friend.
To be honest....the only thing you can really do...is just be there for them when they need you. That is all I am able to do with my friend.
I don't think her family doesn't really care if she lives or dies, I think you're getting the biased point of view from someone that's very upset, depressed, and confused. She probably feels that way due to the smoking and just plain being poor in general and being unable to get treatment and I can definitely understand why she'd feel that, but I wouldn't make the assumption they hate her because of it.
That being said best you can do is as has been said before, be there for her when she needs it. You can also do research, look into what's out there and find out about various charities that can help out, I'm going to throw United Way out there as the first place to check but doubtless there are other non-profit organizations out there that could help.
The only other thing you can do is gather together the people that do love and care about her as a sort of support group, to help encourage her and talk over her fears and apprehensions that no doubt she has. I'd try to find someone that can address the smoking in the family as well if they haven't already quit. (If they've been bad smokers all their life, it won't be that easy for them to quit and they'll need help as well.)
That being said best you can do is as has been said before, be there for her when she needs it. You can also do research, look into what's out there and find out about various charities that can help out, I'm going to throw United Way out there as the first place to check but doubtless there are other non-profit organizations out there that could help.
The only other thing you can do is gather together the people that do love and care about her as a sort of support group, to help encourage her and talk over her fears and apprehensions that no doubt she has. I'd try to find someone that can address the smoking in the family as well if they haven't already quit. (If they've been bad smokers all their life, it won't be that easy for them to quit and they'll need help as well.)
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I feel lucky to have a family who cared for me when I was diagnosed with stomach cancer a month ago. >:
All I can say is be there for her, help her through this, lung cancer is awful.
She really needs to get into treatment before it gets worse too...I hope that the money problem works out soon.
Just pray.
All I can say is be there for her, help her through this, lung cancer is awful.
She really needs to get into treatment before it gets worse too...I hope that the money problem works out soon.
Just pray.
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