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Ok, I know this topic is all over anymore and totally overdone, but I want to know what you guys did or experienced. (If you want to share, at least.)
I was just thinking back to previous years, like elementary school. I still can't believe that when I was in third grade, third grade, I got hate mail in my email from two girls who just hated me for no reason. What was even worse was that they were over at one of my friend's houses and was able to get into their email to send it, which made it look like my friend sent it. What a load of crap, huh?
I'm in 12th grade and am still bullied from time to time. This kid used to throw pens, pencils and whatever else he could get his hands on at me while I was walking down the hallway. Eventually he had all of his friends there and did one of those "hey guys, watch this" things. I took the pencil and put it in my pocket. He yelled at me "Hey! Can I have my pencil back?" When I ignored him he just stopped for a minute. When I came back he asked again. He never did it again when I told him I had already thrown away the pencil. It happened to be one of his friend's pencils.
People are frickin' immature in high school. xD
Anyway, did you guys deal with it, or will you admit that you bullied someone?
I was just thinking back to previous years, like elementary school. I still can't believe that when I was in third grade, third grade, I got hate mail in my email from two girls who just hated me for no reason. What was even worse was that they were over at one of my friend's houses and was able to get into their email to send it, which made it look like my friend sent it. What a load of crap, huh?
I'm in 12th grade and am still bullied from time to time. This kid used to throw pens, pencils and whatever else he could get his hands on at me while I was walking down the hallway. Eventually he had all of his friends there and did one of those "hey guys, watch this" things. I took the pencil and put it in my pocket. He yelled at me "Hey! Can I have my pencil back?" When I ignored him he just stopped for a minute. When I came back he asked again. He never did it again when I told him I had already thrown away the pencil. It happened to be one of his friend's pencils.
People are frickin' immature in high school. xD
Anyway, did you guys deal with it, or will you admit that you bullied someone?
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I tend to stand up for myself. I'm patient and kind on a normal basis but when someone crosses the line, they know I won't react well and I have an ability to publicly humiliate a person in a way that isn't embarrassing for others, but the bully themself so that leaves them to avoid me.
I'm a tiny Asian girl, and grew up in a non-diverse town, so I was easy picking but managed to get even jocks to step out of my way when I'm walking down the hall.
Bullying continues well into adult life. To be honest, I prefer male bullies over females. I find them more confrontational, thus more easily resolved than females who do more backstabbing and take subversive measures.
Ignoring is usually the best thing. If that doesn't work, action has to be taken. Tell an adult or someone with authority, if that fails (and to be honest it often does), take things into your own hands but you really have to know how not to worsen the situation.
I'm a tiny Asian girl, and grew up in a non-diverse town, so I was easy picking but managed to get even jocks to step out of my way when I'm walking down the hall.
Bullying continues well into adult life. To be honest, I prefer male bullies over females. I find them more confrontational, thus more easily resolved than females who do more backstabbing and take subversive measures.
Ignoring is usually the best thing. If that doesn't work, action has to be taken. Tell an adult or someone with authority, if that fails (and to be honest it often does), take things into your own hands but you really have to know how not to worsen the situation.
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I was never bullied in school. People always either respected me or feared me.
I'm with Thalassaemia on the tiny Asian girl thing. I don't look particularly shocking or intimidating and I'm not going to sit there and attack someone for no reason. When I react, people know they did something wrong. My sophomore year, mostly everyone knew exactly who I was and left me alone or tried to suck up to me. Junior and senior year came easy; Junior year I was surrounded by people I generally enjoyed, and senior year once all of my friends had graduated, I apparently had a reputation for being a hardass and most of the underclassmen wouldn't look me in the eye. I don't recall doing anything specific to any person, it just happened that way due to my general nature.
I'm with Thalassaemia on the tiny Asian girl thing. I don't look particularly shocking or intimidating and I'm not going to sit there and attack someone for no reason. When I react, people know they did something wrong. My sophomore year, mostly everyone knew exactly who I was and left me alone or tried to suck up to me. Junior and senior year came easy; Junior year I was surrounded by people I generally enjoyed, and senior year once all of my friends had graduated, I apparently had a reputation for being a hardass and most of the underclassmen wouldn't look me in the eye. I don't recall doing anything specific to any person, it just happened that way due to my general nature.
I've never been afraid of the wildest fights, not afraid of dying
But now I want off this ride 'cause you're scaring me and I don't like where we're going
I was bullied every single semester by the same immature boys back in middle school.
Hm, so was one of my close friends and my second youngest brother with down syndrome.
I did not stick up for myself because I did not know how to....my parents never taught me so yeah...I just cowered and was wimpy.
I never even told anyone...I thought my parents would have been mad if I had told them. I pretty much feared my parents...well, my mother at least.
That was back in PA and now I pretty much hate that state even though IT did nothing to me....bad memories back there is all.
I had no healing methods so I brought my scars with me into high school...we moved to Virginia Beach.
I was a total mess in 9th grade and a bit of 10th. Since I had gotten no help...I just was a depressed person. I had a negative attitude. I was defensive. I took things seriously. I was silent. I looked ready to beat the crap out of people.
Rumors spread that I was a mute and beat people up. All false.
I thankfully got better after I made friends but I still have a "defect" because of having had been bullied. I still get pretty defensive and I tend to take things seriously still. I also have gotten more aggressive and moody. I also have a social anxiety disorder. I even sometimes think myself to be a monster because I did not stand up for my brother...but I just could not. I could not stand up for myself so why I have been able to do that for him?
I am pretty much protective of my loved ones now....in a scary way but I try my best to keep a calm and level head when drama is about. I also beat myself up a lot about the mistakes I made in my past and the things I could have done differently.
When I am really down and thinking about those past events, I hope sometimes there is a Hell and that I will be sent there because I sometimes think I am just really am a cruel human being. I mean...I know I am not and if more horrible events happen to me then I deserve them.
I know I did bad things before middle school so I guess karma kicked in...I was a pretty evil child...I will take in all of my karma that kicks me.
Yeah...my mind is a bit screwy but I will be responsible.
Hm, so was one of my close friends and my second youngest brother with down syndrome.
I did not stick up for myself because I did not know how to....my parents never taught me so yeah...I just cowered and was wimpy.
I never even told anyone...I thought my parents would have been mad if I had told them. I pretty much feared my parents...well, my mother at least.
That was back in PA and now I pretty much hate that state even though IT did nothing to me....bad memories back there is all.
I had no healing methods so I brought my scars with me into high school...we moved to Virginia Beach.
I was a total mess in 9th grade and a bit of 10th. Since I had gotten no help...I just was a depressed person. I had a negative attitude. I was defensive. I took things seriously. I was silent. I looked ready to beat the crap out of people.
Rumors spread that I was a mute and beat people up. All false.
I thankfully got better after I made friends but I still have a "defect" because of having had been bullied. I still get pretty defensive and I tend to take things seriously still. I also have gotten more aggressive and moody. I also have a social anxiety disorder. I even sometimes think myself to be a monster because I did not stand up for my brother...but I just could not. I could not stand up for myself so why I have been able to do that for him?
I am pretty much protective of my loved ones now....in a scary way but I try my best to keep a calm and level head when drama is about. I also beat myself up a lot about the mistakes I made in my past and the things I could have done differently.
When I am really down and thinking about those past events, I hope sometimes there is a Hell and that I will be sent there because I sometimes think I am just really am a cruel human being. I mean...I know I am not and if more horrible events happen to me then I deserve them.
I know I did bad things before middle school so I guess karma kicked in...I was a pretty evil child...I will take in all of my karma that kicks me.
Yeah...my mind is a bit screwy but I will be responsible.
I got bullied plenty of times in High school. On reflection I might not have always don't the right thing about it. Once I ran out of patience with said bullies (Who ever they were at the time) I would throw a punch, or I'd do my best to strip them of their dignity.
I'd always tell them to back off or to go away but when they didn't I'd sometimes just get angry and pop them a good one in the face, when I was calm about things and thought things out I'd resort to cheap exposition tactics that would often lead to school wide embarrassment for them. It always worked and by the time I hit 17 years old people quit messing with me but I'm not sure I'd advise that. I still feel a little bad about some of the things I did. I was cold and even cruel to some of these people just because they wouldn't leave me alone when I told them to. The only defense I have is that I gave them a clear warning before hand.
In general bullies are not that brave and not all that smart and I'm a vindictive kind of person so I was more concerned about teaching them a lesson than I was about doing the right thing and I either humiliated them or tried to intimidate them into backing down, and it worked. In some ways it was a little sadistic because it almost became a game to me. They'd attempt some common form of highschool bullying and I'd turn it around on them because it was a challenge. I felt like they were testing me and when I came out on top I felt like I'd won.
Now years later I just feel like I was toying with a bunch of dumb teens who didn't know better and probably didn't deserve it. There's still the urge to react to provocation when it happens, but I'm better at controlling my impulses and most of the time I just shrug it off. Half the time I find them unworthy of the effort anyway.
I can't say I ever really felt victimized by it though, most of what I felt was contempt, I wasn't hurt by it at all.
I'd always tell them to back off or to go away but when they didn't I'd sometimes just get angry and pop them a good one in the face, when I was calm about things and thought things out I'd resort to cheap exposition tactics that would often lead to school wide embarrassment for them. It always worked and by the time I hit 17 years old people quit messing with me but I'm not sure I'd advise that. I still feel a little bad about some of the things I did. I was cold and even cruel to some of these people just because they wouldn't leave me alone when I told them to. The only defense I have is that I gave them a clear warning before hand.
In general bullies are not that brave and not all that smart and I'm a vindictive kind of person so I was more concerned about teaching them a lesson than I was about doing the right thing and I either humiliated them or tried to intimidate them into backing down, and it worked. In some ways it was a little sadistic because it almost became a game to me. They'd attempt some common form of highschool bullying and I'd turn it around on them because it was a challenge. I felt like they were testing me and when I came out on top I felt like I'd won.
Now years later I just feel like I was toying with a bunch of dumb teens who didn't know better and probably didn't deserve it. There's still the urge to react to provocation when it happens, but I'm better at controlling my impulses and most of the time I just shrug it off. Half the time I find them unworthy of the effort anyway.
I can't say I ever really felt victimized by it though, most of what I felt was contempt, I wasn't hurt by it at all.
I remember when I was younger I got bullied for being quiet. I always have been "big bone" when I was young till now. And Sometimes I would get made up fun of being
"Fat" -__________-.... It really gets annoying when people call you Fat or make fun of the way you look. I will admit, it did get to me at some point but now when I look back it, I would laugh because its funny.
People bully to make themselves feel good I guess. Now I stand up for myself, so people are scared of saying anything to me XD;; My friend gets called fat or ugly many times and I stand up for them because I hate seeing people or my friends getting hurt like that. Nobody deserve to get bullied.
"Fat" -__________-.... It really gets annoying when people call you Fat or make fun of the way you look. I will admit, it did get to me at some point but now when I look back it, I would laugh because its funny.
People bully to make themselves feel good I guess. Now I stand up for myself, so people are scared of saying anything to me XD;; My friend gets called fat or ugly many times and I stand up for them because I hate seeing people or my friends getting hurt like that. Nobody deserve to get bullied.
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people are bullying you cuz you let them get away with it. smash them upside the head with your text book next time. i bet you anything they leave you alone.
i had this problem when i was in school. but after a time i got so sick of it i was imagining them die in the most horrible deaths ever while staring at them silently without blinking. i think it freaked them out because it didn't take long before they left me alone lol
i had this problem when i was in school. but after a time i got so sick of it i was imagining them die in the most horrible deaths ever while staring at them silently without blinking. i think it freaked them out because it didn't take long before they left me alone lol
I've never been bullied I think. There might be one unmemorable moment in elementary school but that was probably it. I don't know how I'd feel if I were bullied. D: It's probbly one of the hardest problems to stop :C
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I'm not used to deal with conflicts... maybe it's my parents' fault for not making conflicts while raising me XD
But well in public school my friends were discretely bullied and I didn't know what to do about it so I tried to avoid those situations
I think there were some reasons I wasn't bullied:
1. I was good at drawing and people admired my work
2. I was good at school work
3. I was really fragile and sometimes cried because I wasn't good at getting friends
4. One of the 'popular' girls in my class liked me a lot for some reason
But I still have a lot of trouble dealing with bullies and I'm surprised that I can still find them at my age ^^'
But well in public school my friends were discretely bullied and I didn't know what to do about it so I tried to avoid those situations
I think there were some reasons I wasn't bullied:
1. I was good at drawing and people admired my work
2. I was good at school work
3. I was really fragile and sometimes cried because I wasn't good at getting friends
4. One of the 'popular' girls in my class liked me a lot for some reason
But I still have a lot of trouble dealing with bullies and I'm surprised that I can still find them at my age ^^'
Actually, the only type of "bullying" I ever done was scaring kids by telling them the truth about drugs. I'm not even sure that's bullying.
About two weeks ago, I missed a day of school. I have been missing a lot of days, for medical reasons. Anyways, my friend texted me asking why I wasn't there, I told her. And someone whom I don't consider my friend began cyber bullying me by texting me. Saying "You have no friends" and not to go to our table in the cafeteria on the following Monday. She also said I was lying about my pain.
She also mentioned when I missed two days the month before "Good luck in grade 11 next year."
It got to the point where I was crying, both in pain and because she was being just plain mean. My mom called me, I told her what was going on, she called the school. The situation was dealt with.
Then on the following Monday, the girl who cyber bullied me decided to bribe my friends into interrogating me, she bribed them with Christmas cookies. That, again, made me upset. But my friends got all their questions answered and got off track, accepting that I was in pain and SHE was the one who almost caused herself being expelled. I like how she considered herself my friend before this all happened.
And, to top that off, she doesn't like me because apparently I'm a bitch. I'm not a dog, nor do I do anything mean.
Bullying sucks.
About two weeks ago, I missed a day of school. I have been missing a lot of days, for medical reasons. Anyways, my friend texted me asking why I wasn't there, I told her. And someone whom I don't consider my friend began cyber bullying me by texting me. Saying "You have no friends" and not to go to our table in the cafeteria on the following Monday. She also said I was lying about my pain.
She also mentioned when I missed two days the month before "Good luck in grade 11 next year."
It got to the point where I was crying, both in pain and because she was being just plain mean. My mom called me, I told her what was going on, she called the school. The situation was dealt with.
Then on the following Monday, the girl who cyber bullied me decided to bribe my friends into interrogating me, she bribed them with Christmas cookies. That, again, made me upset. But my friends got all their questions answered and got off track, accepting that I was in pain and SHE was the one who almost caused herself being expelled. I like how she considered herself my friend before this all happened.
And, to top that off, she doesn't like me because apparently I'm a bitch. I'm not a dog, nor do I do anything mean.
Bullying sucks.
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I have been victimized by bullies before back when I was in elementary school. I have had some very bad experiences with those times. Just going on the bus was an issue because the older kids would always pick on me. I was always one of the last people to get on the bus so I'd end up having to find a seat which usually ended up towards the back where all the older kids would sit. When I think about it, it was really terrible the things they would do. I'd be on the bus and they would tie my shoe laces together. One time they managed to get my backpack and threw it out the window. It didn't help that I was very shy.
At school I remember the kid who came up to me on the first day of school during recess. His exact words to me were "Hi fatty!" I was picked on for my weight so I'd end up very upset and I'd beat them up for it. I, of course, was the one who would get in trouble for it.
I'm just glad that through it all I'm the person I am today and I don't regret who I am. Why anyone would ever want to pick on someone just because they're different is just crass. It's too bad because they kids that are usually bullies are the ones that have some of the worse problems, like family issues.
At school I remember the kid who came up to me on the first day of school during recess. His exact words to me were "Hi fatty!" I was picked on for my weight so I'd end up very upset and I'd beat them up for it. I, of course, was the one who would get in trouble for it.
I'm just glad that through it all I'm the person I am today and I don't regret who I am. Why anyone would ever want to pick on someone just because they're different is just crass. It's too bad because they kids that are usually bullies are the ones that have some of the worse problems, like family issues.
I was bullied quite a bit until my sophomore year in high school. Like once I went on a band trip to Chicago. Myself, along with a group of my friends, were having trouble with this group of guys. They were making threats but the chaperones didn't really do anything since they were friends with their kids. Only a few told them to knock it off. We went to see the blueman group show and there's this part with strobe lights and crepe paper. Instead of passing it down, they kept a bunch then threw it all on top of my head. It wrapped around my neck and they started choking me with it. A friend of mine helped loosen it before going off on them. I had a pretty crappy time since I was also going through depression thanks to my parents divorcing. So I just didn't really care even though it bothered me. The following Monday, without my knowledge, my friends went to tell the principal (whos kid was involved). From what I heard from his girlfriend at the time ( a friend) he was afraid to go home because his mom is super scary. My cousin (who had a sister who was friends with some of these kids) shoved a few of them up against lockers and threatened to cause bodily harm if they came near me again. I still don't agree with their punishments but I was left alone and never bullied again because they were threatened with jail time if it happened again.
The best part? The 10th grade history teacher and the french teacher found out about the incident. They had "words" with these students and were scared shitles.s
The best part? The 10th grade history teacher and the french teacher found out about the incident. They had "words" with these students and were scared shitles.s
I got bullied pretty mildly at school, though it did start to get worse for a couple of months when two kids (one of which who used to be my best friend) started doing more and more violent things, such as folding paper into large chunks and firing it from elastic bands behind me so hard I'd get bruises on the back of my neck. Anyway, one day as we were walking out of class he was kicking the bottom of my bag really hard, and I could hear stuff start to crack in there, so I just spun around and punched him hard on the jaw, he fell down, lip bleeding etc etc, and I just walked off.
The next day I had to sit in exclusion (dunno if you have this in America, I just had to sit in the main admin office working by myself for the day), and when I rejoined the class the next day, one of the more popular kids who I got on with quite well who hadn't realised how bad it got basically stood up (he was a bit of a tough guy) and said "anyone else messes with him answers to me", and I was sorted for the rest of school.
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The next day I had to sit in exclusion (dunno if you have this in America, I just had to sit in the main admin office working by myself for the day), and when I rejoined the class the next day, one of the more popular kids who I got on with quite well who hadn't realised how bad it got basically stood up (he was a bit of a tough guy) and said "anyone else messes with him answers to me", and I was sorted for the rest of school.
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Cinnamint Kitty wrote:I was bullied quite a bit until my sophomore year in high school. Like once I went on a band trip to Chicago. Myself, along with a group of my friends, were having trouble with this group of guys. They were making threats but the chaperones didn't really do anything since they were friends with their kids. Only a few told them to knock it off. We went to see the blueman group show and there's this part with strobe lights and crepe paper. Instead of passing it down, they kept a bunch then threw it all on top of my head. It wrapped around my neck and they started choking me with it.
This sounds like a complete reenactment of my 8th grade band trip. >> We went to Chicago and saw the Blue Man Group. (Same show too with the paper and strobe lights. xD)
I just noticed. You had emails in 3rd grade. oO
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