QuoteLast edited by Harlequin Nightxer on Thu Feb 02, 2012 5:05 am; edited 1 time in total
Talk to him. Draft up a budget and let numbers speak for themselves. Tell him how you feel about never getting to see him because LARPs are taking priority over your relationship. Seriously, does he really need to do two? Relationships take a lot of compromise to make work. I'd give him the option to choose just one and leave it at that. Although doubtless if he's like any of my exes he'll demand you start going with him and that will be his solution. Once again though, budget!
Words exist because of meaning. Once you've gotten the meaning, you can forget the words. Where can I find a man who has forgotten words so I can talk with him? ~Chuang Tzu
talk to him. tell him your concerns about not spending much time together, and about the money issue. don't make him give up everything he loves doing or you will have him extremely pissed off at you for even trying, but try to make him understand that he has responsibilities. he can't go spending tons of money to go play when there are bills to be paid and such. one larp should be good enough. see if you can also find something inexpensive to do with him when you have the free time. justin and i play card games and two-player video games almost every night together, as an example. we also got into the habit of showering every day together...it's not always something sexual, it's really more of 20 minutes or so to just talk about what's been on our mind without the distractions of tv and video games and such. you know, little things like that to keep connected.
Like the above two said, sit down and talk to him.
It definitely seems like money is an issue. Come up with a budget and write down your top priorities.
I know I go through the same thing with my boyfriend from week to week. Have to make sure that money is put away for our half of the rent, utilities, food, the cat, the list goes on and on. I completely understand how stressful it can be.
It definitely seems like money is an issue. Come up with a budget and write down your top priorities.
I know I go through the same thing with my boyfriend from week to week. Have to make sure that money is put away for our half of the rent, utilities, food, the cat, the list goes on and on. I completely understand how stressful it can be.
