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Well I was going to scream at you for doing that, but then you explained it in detail about how you're of legal age. So now it doesn't look as bad as I had thought. Of course 8 years is nothing to be so upset about, of course if he were 35, then I'd see a reason why people would feel uncomfortable.
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While in most cases I don't believe age makes a difference, there are taboos out there that are going to remain because people are people.
It's a little bit disturbing in lower teen years to see them dating older people. There's been a loss of innocence lately and this topic plays on it.
As far as age differences, once out of teenage years, I think hey- whatever you want, go for it. But when you're talking 14,15,16 year olds going out with mid twenty year olds it just doesn't look right.
If you're the younger age bracket, you won't understand it because you can't see it from people who are in the higher age bracket. I really have the same reply as Savagery and Eloquence, she has said the exact thing I want to convey.
There is a large degree of difference in maturity from a 16 year old to a 24 year old- however you look at it. Teenagers are still developing emotionally and physically and especially females at a younger age are more prone to falling prey to their own emotions.
It's a little bit disturbing in lower teen years to see them dating older people. There's been a loss of innocence lately and this topic plays on it.
As far as age differences, once out of teenage years, I think hey- whatever you want, go for it. But when you're talking 14,15,16 year olds going out with mid twenty year olds it just doesn't look right.
If you're the younger age bracket, you won't understand it because you can't see it from people who are in the higher age bracket. I really have the same reply as Savagery and Eloquence, she has said the exact thing I want to convey.
There is a large degree of difference in maturity from a 16 year old to a 24 year old- however you look at it. Teenagers are still developing emotionally and physically and especially females at a younger age are more prone to falling prey to their own emotions.
It's not the fact that they are a pedo. Its the fact there you (being under 18) are a minor. It is okay to date I see no problem in that, but for an older man to be having sex with a younger girl (Or vise versa) its wrong not "legally" but mentally. At 14, 15, 16 you should be worried about school, not worried about your 24 year old boyfriend who wants to bang you.
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Ricey wrote:
Their goal is mainly to seek the sexual pleasure they desire by kidnapping/raping small children, the majority of the time harming them physically.
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There's a difference in dating someone under legal age and being a pedophile.
Do your research, learn the difference.
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and there's also a great difference between a pedophile and a child molester/abductor/rapist
do your research, learn the difference
do your research, learn the difference
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I agree with you on the thing that older men dating younger teens are not pedophiles. I'm 17 (almost 18 in april) & my boyfriend is 23.
Aka Thesmilefell. (:
I honestly wonder why a 24 year old would want to date a teenager.
I don't consider them pedophiles though, but if there is sexual contact
it is statutory rape I believe, depending on the age of consent where you live.
I don't consider them pedophiles though, but if there is sexual contact
it is statutory rape I believe, depending on the age of consent where you live.
Moonshadow wrote:I honestly wonder why a 24 year old would want to date a teenager.
Honestly this. I don't care about laws and all that stuff when I say this...I wonder why an adult would date a teenager. What could you possibly have in common with a child. Yeah sure, common interests but dating, romance and love are different. I have plenty in common with younger folk but most are too goddamn stupid and immature to even be at my level of worth to consider dating.
Of course some teens think they're "mature" for their age but really, most haven't experienced enough of life to be able to wipe their own ass correctly. I don't get how a grown adult could relate on a deeper level to a kid, unless they are immature themselves.
Age is just a number, love is love and all that blah blah blah. Doesn't mean it'll work though. A real relationship takes more than just love or lust, the older a person gets the more they usually tend to learn this...kids on the other hand not so much.
Well i used to be against big age gaps because of the common thinking that different age means different needs and interests.
However, I happen to have a friendly couple; she's 25 and he's 34. And they used to date since her 16, i believe, so he was 25. Back then her family and friends were really worried and against it but yet, love won. And now they live together, run their business, more in love than ever and everyone admires them that they never questioned their feelings.
So yeah, noone can really judge another's relationships and feelings. And of course, never do something against your will, if he loves you he will wait until YOU are ready as well.
However, I happen to have a friendly couple; she's 25 and he's 34. And they used to date since her 16, i believe, so he was 25. Back then her family and friends were really worried and against it but yet, love won. And now they live together, run their business, more in love than ever and everyone admires them that they never questioned their feelings.
So yeah, noone can really judge another's relationships and feelings. And of course, never do something against your will, if he loves you he will wait until YOU are ready as well.
I was fifteen when I met my boyfriend who was seventeen at the time. When we started to date I had just turned sixteen and he was eighteen turning nineteen. By Canadian Laws I was a minor and he was an adult ( you become an adult when you are eighteen ).
I see nothing wrong with someone dating another who is legally an adult while they are a minor or someone dating another who is a minor while they are legally an adult.
My mother didn't want me to become involved with him at first, I understood her concern but did not care for it at the same time. When she met him and got to know him and saw that he was a good guy she stopped worrying. She loves him, they get along so well and the same thing happened with my father. He didn't approve, then he met my boyfriend and they became best friends. They have so much in common it's ridiculous and often when my boyfriend comes over he will chat with my father and it's almost like my boyfriend came over to hang out with my father instead of to see his girlfriend. xD
I'm now eighteen turning nineteen and my boyfriend is twenty-one. We will have been together for three years on June 9th.
Don't judge a couple due to their age differences. Don't judge another because they are dating someone who is 2 - 6 years younger or older than their significant other. It isn't your relationship, it's none of your business. If they are happy and the relationship is healthy then leave them be. Unless there is a real significant reason to worry then don't bother them.