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I think some people can be a bit harsh on cheaters. Yes, it's wrong, stupid, selfish and very disrespectful to your partner, but it doesn't make them scum instantly.
"Once a cheater, always a cheater" is, frankly, a pathetic way to look at things, in my opinion. If you don't love someone enough to give them another chance (unless they repeatedly cheat/lie/have affairs, in which case haul their ass out of that relationship) then it's probably a good thing you seperated in the first place. Time away, that's understandable. A long period of mistrust and uncertainty, also understandable. But ending it after one mistake? I think that's overly cautious. No matter how perfect you think your loved one is, they're only human.
"Once a cheater, always a cheater" is, frankly, a pathetic way to look at things, in my opinion. If you don't love someone enough to give them another chance (unless they repeatedly cheat/lie/have affairs, in which case haul their ass out of that relationship) then it's probably a good thing you seperated in the first place. Time away, that's understandable. A long period of mistrust and uncertainty, also understandable. But ending it after one mistake? I think that's overly cautious. No matter how perfect you think your loved one is, they're only human.
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It depends. I think if someone cheats, and then they want you back, and appear seriously sorry, then maybe give them a chance. I wouldn't get serious with that person right away, but take it EXTREMELY slow, and make them prove how serious they are about changing. But it all depends on the situation, or how badly the 'cheat' was.
It depends. I think if someone cheats, and then they want you back, and appear seriously sorry, then maybe give them a chance. I wouldn't get serious with that person right away, but take it EXTREMELY slow, and make them prove how serious they are about changing. But it all depends on the situation, or how badly the 'cheat' was.
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Well, I'm only in high school. So for right now, I would not take back a guy who has cheated on me {(unfortunately, there have been guys who have cheated on me)}. I've never cheated on a guy, ever. I never will. For me, it's one of the most lowest, most hurtful things you could do to me. When I become close enough to someone, whether I have romantic feelings for them or not, I let them know some of the biggest things I despise are cheating and lying.
Maybe later on (in college or after college), I may be more lenient, depending on how long I've known/been with a guy. It's hard to get over someone you truly care about, even after they've cheated on you. But it would be twice as hard for me to trust them again; it's just the way I am. In a romantic relationship, I feel that love is sacred, special. I convey that too.
I'm able to forgive, of course, and remain friends. However, I would never again want to be with that person romantically.
Maybe later on (in college or after college), I may be more lenient, depending on how long I've known/been with a guy. It's hard to get over someone you truly care about, even after they've cheated on you. But it would be twice as hard for me to trust them again; it's just the way I am. In a romantic relationship, I feel that love is sacred, special. I convey that too.
I'm able to forgive, of course, and remain friends. However, I would never again want to be with that person romantically.
To be honest, yes, I believe that once a person has cheated once, it's incredibly likely that they'll always be a cheater. It's hard for a person to change who they are. It's possible, but not very likely.
I'm sure that in a situation where one or the other person is cheating, it's incredibly hard to get out of that situation and "just leave them", especially if you love them because cheaters have the tendency of being very persuasive, charismatic people.
Personally, cheating is the line for me. A person cheats on me and whether it was one time or not, it's over. There is no forgiving that. Not for me. It doesn't matter how much I love the person. If they cheat, it's over between us.
I'm sure that in a situation where one or the other person is cheating, it's incredibly hard to get out of that situation and "just leave them", especially if you love them because cheaters have the tendency of being very persuasive, charismatic people.
Personally, cheating is the line for me. A person cheats on me and whether it was one time or not, it's over. There is no forgiving that. Not for me. It doesn't matter how much I love the person. If they cheat, it's over between us.
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It's really easy to say 'if someone cheats, I'll leave' but honestly, It's really not as easy as it sounds, especially once you've built up an emotional attachment to the person. If you're in love with someone, you're generally more willing to forgive your partner for their transgressions, but, that doesn't mean you should allow it to happen. If someone cheats and you do take them back, and they do it again, then you should leave regardless of how you feel because if you take them back a second time that's just giving them permission to walk all over you and treat you poorly. Some people cheat once and that's it, because sometimes people see that if they're in it for a long haul, then it's their one last act of freedom before they settle down, it's also why a lot of people do it before they get married, but that doesn't make it okay, nor should there be any real justification behind the act, but people still do it, and probably will continue for a long time to come.
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to be honest i would never take them back.
people rarly change and if they are willing to cheat on me then they did not really care about me. as much as its hard to leave them it will get better some day.
on the other hand i could careless if other people decide to take them back or not. its not my life this theres. if its a frined i will tell them i think they are makeing a bad choice but i will support them.
people rarly change and if they are willing to cheat on me then they did not really care about me. as much as its hard to leave them it will get better some day.
on the other hand i could careless if other people decide to take them back or not. its not my life this theres. if its a frined i will tell them i think they are makeing a bad choice but i will support them.
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Guess it would depend, but I doubt I would take them back
i wouldnt take them back. you know what they say once a cheater always a cheater. it is wrong and if you cheat on your partner than that is basically saying you dont want to be together or they arent enough so either way it isnt good.
all depends how long they been cheatin and stuff but most people i know dont take their men back...
I suppose I'd try to work it out, but it really depends on the cheating. Kissing somebody for a few seconds is basically nothing, but doin' the nasty at a party and I don't think it'd work.
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I would probably wouldn't work it out at all. Period.
I would give him a second chance at being friends again but that's it.
Nothing past the friendship barrier because people like that rarely change for the better.
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Cutting the cord with someone you have learned to love, is almost
As hard as trusting someone who you know
You can't trust anymore. I don't understand why people even cheat.
I guess of they were truly, sincerely, honestly sorry. I'd takethek
Back. But my trust in him would be faltered.
I hate liars.
As hard as trusting someone who you know
You can't trust anymore. I don't understand why people even cheat.
I guess of they were truly, sincerely, honestly sorry. I'd takethek
Back. But my trust in him would be faltered.
I hate liars.
